Muli-shani *How are you in Bemba, Zambia*

Please do send me ways they greet in your vernacular; I’d love to explore all the dialects before this challenge ends. Thanks, Hope, for this Bemba greeting.

Today I did a lot of reading, as the blogs kept coming in from early morning and my oh my. So much wisdom shared and so much pain, loss and suffering overcome. I’m super supa proud of each and every one of you for sharing your stories. Today is one of those days I needed to do more reading than writing. I’m glad I did. God bless your hearts.

But on healing, I must say, most of you wrote my heart on healing. 

Give yourself the grace to. You need it.

I’ll liken it to swimming. (I got this from a spoken word album by Titilope Sonuga, SWIM 2019) Here’s an excerpt.

Ghost/ How to Heal; Titilope Sonuga.

You loved your ghost so hard it swallowed your heart

Bloodied your hands to polish its face

Till it shone back, a mirror reflection.

You kissed that shadow into being

Taught it how to feel, laugh, speak human-like

No one ever taught you the alchemy of your love,

Its magic animates the bones of even the most fossilized.

In the end, what you really miss is your own

Hearts beat echoed back.

You don’t miss them

What you miss is yourself.

So, this is how to heal the wound:

One, cleanse with salt water.

It’s the only way to release the poison.

Two, you will need a healing balm, more love

More love, be generous in your application.

Three, let the wound breathe.

Don’t cover it until it festers and rots.

Speak it and let it go.

Let it go.

Four, do not pick the scab.

***

Cheers.

Comments(52)

  1. 👏Yes to speaking it on our blogs

    1. Yes indeed. 😊 Thanks for reading Feona

    2. Vicky 😩😩😩

    3. Idk why I confuse you and Feona. 😂🙈

  2. 👏Yes to speaking it on our blogs

    1. Yes indeed. 😊 Thanks for reading Feona

    2. Vicky 😩😩😩

    3. Idk why I confuse you and Feona. 😂🙈

  3. Yes to speaking it and letting it go

    1. Yess indeed. 😊👏🏾

  4. Yes to speaking it and letting it go

    1. Yess indeed. 😊👏🏾

  5. …….Don’t cover it until it festers and rots, i really felt this, great words of wisdom thank you so much for sharing!!

    1. Thank you for reading. 😊

      1. You’re welcome

  6. …….Don’t cover it until it festers and rots, i really felt this, great words of wisdom thank you so much for sharing!!

    1. Thank you for reading. 😊

      1. You’re welcome

  7. Beautiful poetry by Sonuga.

    1. It is indeed. Thanks Winnie

  8. Beautiful poetry by Sonuga.

    1. It is indeed. Thanks Winnie

  9. Thank you for sharing 💛

    1. You’re welcome. Thanks for reading Abi girl.

  10. Thank you for sharing 💛

    1. You’re welcome. Thanks for reading Abi girl.

  11. The words in the photo made me think of James1:2, count it all joy.

    1. Yes count it all joy indeed. 😊

  12. The words in the photo made me think of James1:2, count it all joy.

    1. Yes count it all joy indeed. 😊

  13. Thanks

    1. You’re welcome Kev

  14. Thanks

    1. You’re welcome Kev

  15. “You don’t miss them, you miss yourself”💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    1. Yes yes. 🤗

  16. “You don’t miss them, you miss yourself”💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    1. Yes yes. 🤗

  17. This is one of the antidotes for today

    1. 🤗 yes you have to heal from all the ache you read…

  18. This is one of the antidotes for today

    1. 🤗 yes you have to heal from all the ache you read…

  19. So beautiful 😪. Thank you!

    1. You’re welcome Nani. ❤️ Is that a good short form 😂🙈

      1. Yes it it babes 😊

  20. So beautiful 😪. Thank you!

    1. You’re welcome Nani. ❤️ Is that a good short form 😂🙈

      1. Yes it it babes 😊

  21. ‘Do not pick the scab’
    💪🏽Yes, yes,yes!

    1. Yep 🤗

  22. ‘Do not pick the scab’
    💪🏽Yes, yes,yes!

    1. Yep 🤗

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